Sex in Singapore

Just my opinion – Sex in Singapore

By Warren Carter

10 April 2006

Well another place got busted for working as an illegal brother in Chinatown. This is the third place I have heard of so far within the past 6 months with this on charge S$140 per session with a girl from China who wore costumes for the men.

While there have been several articles in the news papers about the place and what took place I have to ask this question:

Being in a country where it is about 50/50 between the sexes and people are getting married at older ages (35 to 45), why do the guys here need to keep paying for sex?

I can understand the “once in a while” trips to get laid just because it is so easy to find here with all the prostitutes in the country that are legal not to mention the illegal one which out number the legal workers. It seems that the men here are surly undersexed by the women of Singapore and need to find outlets where ever they can. The designated red light areas, which are in the county are for the most part in the area where the foreign workers live but this doesn’t stop the local men for going to the area to have cheap sex.

Many of the men that visit the areas have their regular girls that visit on a set schedule, true most are single but a large number are married men also. So it that the wives don’t care as long they don’t have to sex with them as often as the husband would like? Maybe?

What about the 600 plus men that go to Batam each weekend for sex? Everyone knows why they are going and it is not hidden and is out in the open. Stories have been done on what takes place and where to go to find the girls and even the prices are listed so you know how much it going to cost you. Ok a guy needs some attention because he is a bit older and not the kind of “catch” a girl from Singapore would want so off they go. So why aren’t these men wanted in Singapore? Many have plenty of money, flats (houses) so what the problem? Is it just easier to head to Batam for a week end have some fun there (which is a lot cheaper than Singapore) then return to work for the week only to return the following weekend? It seems so. I would have to put Batam in the same category as T J in Mexico which is next to border of California because the same thing happens there also but to the extent as in Batam.

In the clubs in Singapore you‘ll find lots of girls but how many are just out for a night on the town and how many are willing to go home with you at the end of the night without a charge because you just found out she was a hooker from some place else. I would say the numbers are smaller then we (the guys) would like. Oh true there are a number out there that will jump in to bed with you “if you fit the bill”, that is. So by the time you get to the club, pay to get in, have some drinks, find a girl, buy her drinks, hit a few more clubs and then feed her you may get some.

Now this is normal for anyplace in the world when you go clubbing and looking for a 1 night stand that you hope will turn into a weekend adventure of your life. But with sex being so cheap, as low as S$35 for a short time fling why spend the 100’s of dollars on a maybe? So would this make a guy lazy for looking for sex from a local girl, fuck ya! Besides he’s not looking for a wife right now just some fun.

The girls move from bed to bed only last for while before they too start to settle down and start to keep their legs together form all the guys that told them they call her and never did. I don’t look down on anyone for sleeping around because I can’t see pointing a finger at some one regardless of male or female for doing what I did plenty of. If you like having sex, hey that is up to you, it’s your call.

The women of Singapore have some issue too which many have talked about too. Too demanding – guys need to have the “5 C’s” = (Cash / Credit card / Car / Condo/ Career) to even be on the playing field. Some say the girls in Singapore are too damn picky with high standards, which I don’t blame them for, I mean you really can’t. A woman has always and will always looks for what is best for her, her well being and who can best support her for life. So when it comes to the men in their lives you bet your ass she’ll be picky as hell from the height he needs to be to the income he better be making. Fall short and your out. The down side is that for the guy that is looking for a girl get many rejections so what choice dose he really have? Can this affect a man sex drive, yup it sure can, the pressure to live up to a higher standard.

Now here is what happens; since the guys have just about had it with some of the women in Singapore they look else where for easier game like china, Indonesia, Vietnam for wives. Some may say it is the easy way out because the men can deal with the Singaporean woman but on the other hand why should they? It’s a matter of choice. They want a wife at home who is happy there and will be there when even they get home and want sex. In my opinion that is all they really want in the long run. These men are not getting married for financial gain or to raise there status in the community or even to have some one to motivate them to work harder. It’s all about having sex on demand.  

Women are shoppers; they will look and look until they find what they want. They may try on a few to see if it fits but only after a trial period. As I said there are some out there that are sexually active so you can find your self with a hot woman one night, anything can happen, right? But to say, “Singaporean girls are easy”, no way! Now I could be wrong but hey this is just my opinion, ok?

Now guy, we are hunters! When we see something we want we go and get it, no bullshitting around, straight line to the kill. Then we move on the next hunt. When we are young we want to hit on every girl we can one way or another. As we get older, well we tend to wait for slower and easier game to come along before making our move. Instead of using spears, now we use cold hard cash to make the kill. If a guy in unlucky in the clubbing scene he’ll just move on to easier game like Orchard Towers, Geylang or take the boat ride to Batam, easier and cheaper in the long run!

Ok so much for the local men, so why is it that Expats do well in Singapore with the local women? Not just in relationships but in the club scene too. I have never heard a Expat say “it’s hard to get laid in Singapore!” Around town you will see them with their girl friends, in the clubs they are approaching the girls and talking to them having a good time. There doesn’t seem to be any problems in the having sex area with them. You don’t see the Expats flocking to Batam or Geylang for sex. I’m sure they go but chances are more for the thrill of saying to their buddies back home, “I was there and whole shit you will not believe this shit!”  Now all know the Expats in Singapore make big money so there is attraction for a  woman on the look for the perfect mate, secondly sooner or later they are going home and may take their girl with me, leaving Singapore and all of the restriction, another plus. Men from Europe, Australia, New Zealand the States are much more willing to approach a girl in the club and start talking. Maybe because they start dating a such a young age by the time they are able to enter a club we have the experience behind them to know not every girl is going to yes or we have perfected the “perfect line”.

I think Expats are much more confident in them self and carry them selves better when around women  then most of our Asian counter parts. Yeah that’s right most, there are some cool Asian guy out there and we salute you.

But go to a club and see who that ladies leave with given a choice, unless that is she is your sister and you are driving her home!

Now married people fall into a different category when it comes to sex, I don’t need to get in to why I would think everyone know already. But here is what happens in a marriage. Before the wedding (if you where lucky enough to have sex before then) you got laid all the time, 3 to 4 times a week. But after the wedding it starts to drop off and become routine. So unless something is done to keep it new and lively over time the thrill  is gone and now you are having intercourse and the raw sex you had before that keep you up all night long.

So after 6 or 7 years people start to else where for the excitement, this applies to both men and women too. Now again this doesn’t apply to everyone, I know plenty of couples that have been together for many many years and never strayed and I have to commend them for that. If you look at the rate of divorce, well some things happening and it isn’t fucking! I was told along time ago that 2 things break up a marriage; money problems and sex.

So guys keep your sex life active and remember; what excites you all the time may not do the same for her, sure she’ll dress up for you or what ever but you have to return the favor too. Ask her what she would like some times. She’ll tell you if you ask her.

Ladies; you have the power to keep him or loose him. If you keep the store closed 6 days a week, well sooner or later you’ll be out of business.

But this is just my opinion.