By: Warren Carter

1. How to get started

First of lets get the name right, how to lie and get away with it!

Telling a lie is something everyone does and the degrees of the lie make no difference so don’t fool your self about that. Either you tell the truth or you don’t.

Starting at an age really helps a lot when you get older and need to lie to some one you have been living yet and knows your habits and routines.  So perfecting the skills to get away with the small lies can lead you to the day when you need to tell the whooper of a lie to save your skin. Patrice makes perfect as the saying goes.

2. A lie is the truth if you can get some one to believe it

Most people who have to tell a lie quickly tend to surround the lie with some truth to make the story seem real. But the problem is that the small details which are true fall a part quickly for the lie and so the story is no good and you’re in trouble. What you need to do is have your lie contain 90% truth in it. This means planning on your part because without a plan you have nothing but trouble.

You know when you are planning on going out with your friends and will need a good story to cover you on why you returned home so late. So make plans before hand, start to lay the grown work of the road you plan to travel. Let your partner know on this date I will be going out with friends, do this few weeks in advance so notice has been given. Next make it some one they do not know, this will avoid them checking up on you or make a call and finding that person home and saying they haven’t seen you in weeks.

Pick up business cards from places that are safe so when you return home they can been shown as to where you had dinner or the new club you checked out which can be added into the lead up story you give. This also covers why you were so late getting home.

So in our lie so far all we have is the truth because we did visit the places we said, just on the night we said we did. As for the name use some one you will never get and partied with years ago, this why when you tell a story you can tell one from years ago and since it is the truth the story will always be the same no matter how many times they ask you about it. See how it starts to come together now? This brings me to the next section, trust.

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Here is one example:

When I was 17 I was walking a girl home from school. While on the way to her house we walked up the street which was built on a sandy hill side so the road which was concrete had been broken and then the cracks and be connected with tar, these are called expansion cracks.

So as we walked along I asked her if she knew why the road had the tar? She told me she had no idea. I told her the reason was because after World War 2 France was in a bad way and needed money. So in an effort to help the country after the war the U.S. bought the roads from towns that had been complete destroyed. The roads were broken in to movable sizes and shipped to the states.

Since the Hermosa Beach area of California didn’t really start to develop until the 1950’s the roads where reassembled and the tar was used to hold it together. Then they build the city around the roads and that is why there is tar in the roads.

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So let’s take a close look at what I told her.

First after the war the U.S. did help a lot of country in different ways – so this is true

France did have many town destroyed – this is also true

Do they use tar on roads to hold them together – yes

Did Hermosa Beach build up after the war – yes it did

Did the US buy the road, well no the city did but not from France at lease

Was it shipped over – no but in away it was transported (transit mixer)

So here we have a 4 to 2 ration of truth to lie pretty good I would say.

Now her dad did not see this at all funny so the next time I saw him he pulled me a side and asked me on to mislead his daughter but he did think it kind of funny that she fell for the story. At the same time he never trusted me around her ever again.

3. Building trust

This is the hardest part of all even harder then telling the lie it’s self. This takes time, you need to slowly build the trust in what you are telling your mate is always true. So how do you do this, well start by calling then from different locations and checking-in with them. This show you are letting then know where you are and what time you will be home and don’t be late. Spend quality time with them, a lot of it, do what they want to do too.

Slowly start your adventures by going out once in a while then increasing them slowly but don’t get carried way at the same time, too much away time builds mistrust as does coming home really late with out checking in, this will come in time so be still.

You always have to keep your wits about you, one slip can cause you to be set back for who knows how long if you are planning a major event for you to cover. You need to have the other person believe you are the best thing since bottled beer and that you would do no wrong.

Start with some practice runs, working late, and be in the office since they will call. Call home and tell then you left you hand phone home this way contacting you could be and would be a lot harder, this give you the ability to move freely with out fear of the “come home” call. You can also do this by leaving your phone in the office also. Another thing you can do with you phone is let the battery run so low so that while you are out it goes dead, again you cannot be contacted and when you get home it is really dead so your story holds up on why you could not be contacted.

Doing these a few times is all that is needed because you have set a pattern of behavior for your self so when needed to be used it is nothing new and less question will be asked of you. Newest brings suspicion with it and you don’t want that in any form.

4. Never change your story

To be a good liar you need to believe that the story you are telling is nothing but the truth your self by doing this your voice, facial expression and your eyes will not give you away. You need to be able to look the person straight in the eyes and tell your story with out any signs of deception at all. Most people will not and can not look directly at the person they are lying to so this is the first give-a-way to the other person that something is not right. Voice tone, do you have nevus sound in our voice?

Many things we do normally can give you away that you may that be aware that you doing them. Tell your story but keep it short and give enough information to answer the question but avoid getting into too much detail if you can. Keep it simple but informative; don’t wait to be asked just come out with it. By telling what happen first as to why you are home so late shows in a way you are trying to hide anything. Tell them you messed up and you’re sorry, it’s all part of the bluff anyway so add it to your advantage.

If you get caught remain calm, all they have is suspicion and not facts. By remaining calm you can think clearly and remember your story. Ok you been caught but you can talk your way out of it if you are on your toes and keep thinking one step a head of them. “what could be the next question if I say this?” is what you need to thinking. So when the question comes you can right away answer. Hesitation is a sign of a lie, remember that. The truth comes quickly because there is nothing to remember. Don’t answer a question with a question, this shows you are trying to buy time to come up with a good answer for the question put to you.

As this titles says NEVER CHANGE YOUR STORY, this is why you need to have more truth then lie and you your self believe it to be true in your story, easy to remember and it will not change much over time. If you change your story, you’re dead just like that. Each time you tell the story you need to have the compassion as you did the first time other wise things start to get questions and more details are wanted and that could lead to big trouble due to conflicts that could come up with the time line or person you last said were with. Again this is one good reason to have only 1 other person in your story, less names to remember.

5. Making rules for your self

To play the game and win you always need to have some rule to go by, this will help keep you out of trouble in the long run. They also remind you that anything can happen so by following your rules for not getting caught should help you.

I am not a person of makes rules for my self but there are some I have to cover your myself.

1. Never tell more then you need to, keep details to a minimum about places you visit and party friends you have.
2. Not give out phone numbers of friends and never keep them written down where they can be found.
3. Don’t keep phone numbers of people you met, if you need to keep a number code it so how so it will not show names that should be there. Like “joe – supply” meaning – Joann “hooker” get the idea?
4. Don’t mess around with any family members
5. Don’t visit places where family members could show up
6. Don’t mess with co-workers
7. Don’t get in a routine with your new friend this tends to make your comfortable and that leads to you getting sloppy and careless
8. Always pay by cash
9. Check you pockets long before your get home for anything that can give you away.
10. Check yourself for any unwanted marks or smells and even hairs that was left behind.
11. This works great - If you are getting home very late, don’t sneak in, make some noise, your drunk right? Turn the bedroom light, take a shower and jump into bed, wake your partner and see if they are up to having sex, chances are they will pass since your drunk and they are tried since it is 4am and not really in the mood. Then just go to sleep with a smile on your face and in the morning say, “I did what last night?” Memory lost can be a great thing if you use it right and not often.

In conclusion

When I go out 85% of the guys I gout are married and another 10% have steady girl friends, so the 5% that have no one in the lives at the time are free and easy with no worries. But the other 95% on the other hand have lots to worry about. Depending on where you live and how much area you have to move in helps a lot in you not being spotted by family or friends. When I lived in Los Angels no one was with in 15miles of where I lived. For me this was my safe zone.

For people living in small counties like Singapore, will it is a totally different story since all the major party areas are in a small part and in close by each other. People never now where some one could pop up at and you get spotted. Go to any clubs that has a lot of girls in it and take out a camera and see what happens in no time fast. Why, well because 90% of the guys are there with out their wives knowing and they don’t want to be spotted in the pub with 2 girls in their arms.

Think long and hard before you start down this road because once you start to travel down it there is NO turning back, no second change, one lie leads to another and if it all comes out your relation is sunk. So realize what you can loose if you get caught red handed and is it worth it.

Not everyone makes good lairs and few because highly skilled at the trade. You need to be hard in the heart to pull off big lies to someone in your life that you care about it.

Being a good deceiver is like being a thief, you start off slow and grow in your skills as you gain more experience. But like a good thief you have to know what you can and what you con do. Other wise you are bound to get caught. You have to know your skills and abilities before you go for the big kill. Some people never make it to the big leagues because they lack the natural skill to succeed in certain areas.

Why is it some people can lie and away with it while other don’t even try, easy those that know or feel they will get caught don’t attempt it while others are thrill seekers and give it a try, when they get away with it they want to try something more daring and bold. Over time it becomes a way of life that they can do when they want to so the skill is perfected and used when needed .

A well thought plan, which some are, can give the person a freedom not know before when you are talking about a long term goal that a business trip to Thailand that you have been hinting about for the pass 3 months. Over that time you started out with just a mention it might happen, as time passes you add a bit more and then more, you say that someone else is going so you can stay home

But at the last minute with that call from the office that now you have to go because so-in-so quit all the sudden. (this way there is no way to verify your story)  so you get home all bummed out and start packing for your business trip. You ask can I bring you something back and I’ll call you every day. But in the rush to the air port you forget you handphone in the car, damn the bad luck!!

And off you go.

Isn’t life a bitch?