This is a mixture of information I received from a guy that worked in a few bars on Tanjong Pagar road and my own experiences over the years with them.
Written by: Warren Carter
Most guys that travel around the world have come across bar that had girls just sitting around waiting for some one to come in and buy them drinks for the night. You’ll find clubs like this all over the place and often they are grouped together in the same areas.
Your first time to buy-me-drink will be a learning experience for you and can be a costly one too.
The way the B-m-D bars work is they have girls either freelancers or girls they hire to get the guys to by them drinks. In most cases the girls get half of the price of the drinks they are able to get the guy to buy her. If he doesn’t buy her any drinks she earns nothing even off his drinks.
Ladies drinks prices are higher then the guys a beer can cost you from 10 to 30 dollars depending on the club, the girl and how willing you are to pay. Since the B-m-D girl is out to make money she will start off by asking for the highest price she can and work her way down in price if you don’t want to pay. But keep in mind that these girls are pretty good at the game so some may start low and work their up on price.
How do they work their way up from a 10 dollar beer to 50 dollar drink? Easy, first off she will treat you like a king and be your girl friend for a long as you are buying, she will give you a world of fun right there in the bar, dance sexy for you, give you a lap dance and reach down your pants if she is daring enough. She’ll let you rub your hands on her where ever you want and tell you after work she can leave with you.
Like anything else a lot of different factors play into the equation on if she really goes with you or not. Which I’ll talk about, first off if she is only working to get your money, which is her job, she’ll ditch you at the end of the night and that will that. Second does she like you or not and how much did you spend. Some girls really do like the guys they meet in the bar and just want to have some fun with them for a night or two. Other girls go only for the money, so after you have spent a small future in the bar getting her and her friends drinks all night now she also wants you to pay her for her services. So I am talking about 3 levels of working girls in the bars.
1. Business only in the club, have your fun, spend your cash and go home alone.
2. Have fun in the bar, she like you and the two of you leave after work.
3. You spend a lot in the bar then spend a lot more for her time after work.
Why do the girls only go after the bar closes and not before, several reasons. First they are on contract with the bar and have to make their night quota which is on average 15 drinks per night or $150.00. If the girl is contracted though the bar and is recruited to come and work there that is the only place she can work to start with, second she needs to pay back the owner for her plane fare over, plus her room. So right off the top she arrives owing about S$1,200 plus her rent. Not to mention she also has to get her own food and other needed items.
Here is the break down on the girls. 60% don’t make enough to pay back the owner the load they took and have to exit Singapore for a few days then return and keep working, they can leave about 4 or 5 times before immigrations tells them no more and they have to leave. Most can get a 30 day visitor pass if they are coming form the Philippines which is where 90% of the B-m-D girls come from. 20% make just enough to pay back the loan and leave and the other 20% leave with money in their pockets because they when out with guys for the money.
Most of the girls are single, single mother while about 30% are married and came to Singapore to earn some money to support the family. There are cases where the husband had his wife recruited so she could come to Singapore and earn some cash.
So who sleep around the most, hard to say? It depends on the girls and why they are here, did they know what the job entailed before getting to Singapore, so know, many don’t but because of the load they owe and with the owner holding their passports what can they do but try to work off the load anyway they can. Which means letting the guys feel a lot more, feeling more of the guys and even going home with the customers.
If a girl just sits and talks holding hands over time the guys wants more and she is not will to provide then other are found that will. So the guys move on to a bar that has a more action in it. After all if a person is going to spend their cash for the company of a girl he is going to want his moneys worth. While some club owners do not allow wild stuff to happen other do and it can get pretty wild in some bar. Many places have been busted by the police due to activities going on in the booth in the back in the corner in the dark and some time right at the bar in plain view of everyone. This is your $50 drink service charge. 5 shots of tequila and stand by for the time of your life.
When you enter the pub depending on the style of the club you may sit there for a few minutes before they approach you mostly in working in pairs so you have some what of a choice. Both will try for drinks so expect it to happen. Over time other girls will stop by once they see you buying drinks to try to move in on you and get some action. These girls are not shy and the competition can get very high between the girls for your attention, meaning your money. If one girls hugging you the other girl will kiss you. If one lets you feel her breast the other will let you put your hand up her skirt. One will show you’re her tits and the other will show you, “look no G-string”.
While the times in clubs can be a lot of fun it will cost you if you don’t keep your head about you. It is real easy to fall in to the B-m-D girl trap where you find your self feeling for this girl. Ok it can and does happen. But you need to understand what it involves. To start with once she has your phone number she will call or SMS you all the time asking when are you coming by to see her again and how much she misses you, (you money). Then she needs a phone card to call home because she has no money, then she needs money for food or to renew her ticket because she may have to leave other wise and she likes it here so much. She will tell you it is just a load but if you give it, kiss that money good bye. If you take her has a girl friend be ready to see her with other guys she still needs to work in the bar from 7pm until up to 3am. That is unless you paid off her load and the owner freed her from the contract which chances are he hasn’t. So unless you plan to fully support her for her time in Singapore (or wherever in the world you meet your bar honey-ko = sweetheart) while she is working to get the 15 drinks a night you can get your feeling hurt really fast.
It all about the money, ok. If some other guys comes along and is willing to spend and give more your out! It is just that simple. When it comes to B-m-D girls’ money is the main determining factor on all her decisions, that is why she came in the first place and that is what she wants to go home with. Anything extra is just that, like some Expat who what to take her for a wife. I have friends that have married bars girls form the Philippines and everything worked out in some cases but most only lasted a few years, they got their Green Card in the states and left the guy after that.
All of them have a story to tell you too. Believe halve of what you hear and you will be doing ok. Most do come from a family with some kind of problem, why is working in the bar will to me that is not my concern. I’m no better, hell I’m there doing the buying so who’s the whore? The one selling or the one buying?
The girls come from all over the Philippines and all speak English well. For many this could be their first time overseas while others may be well traveled. Some have working in bars at strip clubs where the nightly bar-fine was a regular event. These are your more seasoned girls, they know the game better then all the others girls and can suck your money dry in no time given the chance. These girls can drink all night and keep going. That is because you don’t see that in the bathroom toughing-up. The time in the clubs is wild with them too, your hands are free to roam where they want as are hers so anything can happen but remember all for a price.
So what is the age rage of these girls, well I have meet girls as young as 19 and as old 38. so was she really 19, could be and some I do believe are that young. From what I found the girls in the 22 to 26 age rage are the most fun in the clubs while the older one are better for after work activities as a general rule. Some may disagree but this is my opinion.
My experiences with B-m-D girls goes back to 1980 when I was in Guam and started to hit the many clubs that were there then and still are. From there I moved on to the Okinawa, Yakota Japan, Long Beach California, San Diego Calif., Rota Spain – not many b-m-d places but you know me and I found them and I’ll even say Diego Garcia only because I got a lot of drinks and never got anything for the girls there, I didn’t include the Philippines or Thailand because, well if you can't get laid there in a bar you need some real help, and I didn’t need to buy drinks there all night to get girls unless I wanted to take a break from all the fun and just buy drinks for the night. You know even God has to rest on the 7th day and so did I some times. |
Warren's Singapore 2008 